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Part 3: Setting and Attaining Goals

 

setting and attaining goals

Diana Golden Brosnihan, a brilliant skier. Diana won 19 Gold medals in world competition.

How do you go about setting and attaining goals?

What challenges do you face when setting goals?

How do you hold yourself accountable for accomplishing a goal?

How do you know when you are successful?

How do you celebrate success?

Setting and attaining goals

Setting goals and how one attains them can differ between the athlete and the executive. With the end result being success for both, it differs in how one’s goals are identified and what role the coach plays. The skier may tell their coach their overall goal of wanting to ski all the intermediate terrain comfortably. The ski coach then identifies what the skier’s needs are to accomplish this and creates the smaller goals or stepping stones for their student, telling them and showing them what to do and how to do it. They encourage and provide feedback throughout, even skiing down the hill in order to literally mirror proper movements for them; perhaps even manipulating them physically so they may feel the correct positioning.

 

The executive coach questions, providing space for the client to explore possibilities and express how they see, feel, or think about things. Instead of focusing on what the coach thinks, an executive coach focuses on the client’s thoughts and ideas. It is a conversation to provoke thought and bring out of the executive his or her own goals and direction they want to go; guiding the executive to identify for themselves what the path is (obstacles and resources) to get them to their goal. Executive coaching includes mirroring also, but it’s mirroring the client’s words back to them and asking for more depth of vision.

 

The executive coach focuses on repeating the positive statements and rephrases in an affirmative way so as to support clear, positive, proactive thought patterns; similar to how the sports coach performs the maneuvers in the correct way, leading the student to see positive movement patterns with the goal of creating the correct image for the student. Through open-ended questioning, the executive coach listens to what the client says so they can identify what the client wants.  The coach then takes the very words of the client, without analyzing or judging, and reflects them back to their client.

 

The scope of goals for an executive is broad and can range from any issue in the person’s life to one particular project in a particular area. This broad scope arena for goal options means the look of success for an executive is just as broad. The coach for the executive then uses their fine-tuned skills to help guide the executive to clarify and pinpoint particular goals and then prioritize them. Through further questioning to bring out existing resources and strengths, the executive coach helps the client to identify action steps and timelines as well as measures for success.

 

While the sports coach takes into consideration confidence levels, analyzes movement and then teaches and advises. The executive coach brings about awareness through discussion, plus exploration of their client’s wants, thoughts, and behaviors. Awareness is enlightening to the executive, just as it is to the athlete. Sports and executive coaches both seek to empower their student/client and provide action steps and timelines for making change based on new awarenesses of body mind and spirit.

 

In part 4, I address risk taking and behavior change.

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How are you connected to your organization’s mission?

connected to your organization’s mission

Connecting to the mission of one’s work adds value and purpose to the work.

Consider the following questions:

How clear are you about your organization’s mission?
How do you explain to others what you do?
How do you explain why you do what you do?
How does your role at work directly connect you with the organization’s purpose?
How does your role at work connect to your personal goals and values?

In my work with one nonprofit, the board was made up of “old timers” and “new comers”. There was lots of new energy and ideas in the air. The new comers were taking things in a new and fresh direction to bring in new and exciting things to draw in new and enthusiastic members. The old timers were wondering how this fit with their purpose. The new comers saw the potential to bring in more money with this newness. This sounded good to the old timers so they moved forward.

What happened was mission drift. It became hard for the board to agree where to focus and spend and grow because they lost the sense of who they were and why they existed in the first place. It became challenging for leadership to focus on precision and for the staff to operate when the mission was no longer clear. The messaging to the public became fuzzy and the purpose of, and connection to, the organization was drifting for all.

The next board meeting required a full agenda on the questions “Why do we exist?” and “Who do we intend to serve?”

It is invigorating to revisit the mission of one’s organization and clarify the connection for governing members, leadership and staff as well as for one’s self. Clarifying and articulating the mission is also a powerful tool for on-boarding new team members and champions.

How is the work of your board, leadership and staff different when your connected to your organization’s mission organization’s mission is clear and each can articulate their own connection to it?

I offer a program on mission connection and enjoy my work with boards, staff and individuals to strengthen connections in their lives.

Request a complimentary Connection Strengthening Session today.

Note: A wonderful read discussing mission connection is the book, Focus on Sustainability by Dennis McMillian of the Foraker Group.

 

 

 

Balancing caregiving with the rest of one’s life: Caregiver by default syndrome

Balancing caregiving with the rest of one's life

It’s common in today’s society to suddenly find one’s self in the role of caregiver to a friend or family member. Caregiving is emotionally charged on top of being another full-time job with a host of responsibilities.

I just finished setting up a Caring Bridge account for yet another friend beginning their journey with cancer. It causes a heaviness that I bring with me to work and other parts of my day. How can I go on with my life lightly as my friend is fighting to keep hers?

Many of us have experience with loss and grief but that doesn’t make it any easier. I have been volunteering with hospice for decades, yet I still go through the inevitable cycle of grief that comes with the territory.

Hospice encourages supporting caregivers with respite; any kind of respite you can offer: time away for a walk, an ear to listen without offering solutions; a precooked meal; or any simple gesture of support.

I believe the best thing a caregiver can do is take care of one’s self first.  I know it sounds counterintuitive but it is similar to what they tell you on the airplane about the oxygen mask… put it on yourself before putting it on your baby because you can’t help your baby if you can’t breath.

Some examples of taking care of yourself in the caregiver role include accepting help every time it is offered, allowing yourself to take breaks, taking the time to do something you enjoy, getting enough sleep and having a confidant.

Yet, how are we to handle that heavy ache at work? How can we stop the crusade we find ourselves on to take on the medical aspects as well as handle the other challenges of life such as if there are young children and financial issues and animals and…and…and…

One client shared, “I feel very purposeful caring for my mom yet the one thing I crave is time to sit alone and think about how things are unfolding.” While another client shared,  “I am so busy between work and caregiving that when I do have a free moment all I want to do is go wander aimlessly around the mall and just look at and touch everything but I feel so guilty wasting precious time.” These things may seem simple but they are not; they are important survival tactics and in the end will make each moment more valuable.

Balancing caregiving with the rest of one’s life the demands of one’s career with the demands of the other aspects of one’s life fills the hours of the day easily. Adding the role of caregiver means needing help. Therefore, finding balance among the important roles in your life is critical and the best way to take care of you.

 How are you taking care of yourself so work and life are balanced?

Coaching is a great way to take care of one’s self and many coaches offer a free introductory session.

Request a complimentary Work/Life Balance session today!