It is common in today’s society to need to balance work responsibilities with personal life challenges.

What will it feel like when the demands of work and personal life are balanced?

Millennials: Entitled or Evolved?

I appreciate Millennials for pioneering a new work environment and embracing how the world has evolved.

In my experience managing, being managed by, counseling, coaching, training and parenting Millennials, here are my own generalizations about this generation:

·     They are unabashedly open to the differences in themselves and others.

·     They don’t settle for a job; they require their work have meaning and impact.

·     They expect proportional compensation to their time and talent.

·     They care about people, the environment, and the future.

·     They take advantage of opportunities to focus on self-actualization.

·     They view professional development as a natural part of their career.

·     They are more concerned about being good rather than being seen as good.

·     They are collaborative rather than competitive.

·     They are opportunists—but not necessarily at the expense of others.

As I see it, Millennials are simply taking advantage of the opportunities other generations have made available to them. Each new generation has the opportunity to do more because they have more. Each generation is doing more – it’s just that the more differs from the previous generation’s more.

So why is this generation labeled entitled when they’re simply doing as they’ve been encouraged to do?

A good example of how the needs of each generation has evolved is in what my friend Adam said to his father about his own children:

“Dad, just because you had to walk to school uphill, both ways, doesn’t mean my kids are lazy for taking the bus.”

Mark Snow, VP Program Development at Assessments 24×7 points out that Millennials are far from lazy, they are opportunists – just as every generation has been. Each has taken advantage of the opportunities the generation before made available, as they should.

In short, Mark uses Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to highlight the focus for each generation:

– The Silent generation sought the basic physiological needs such as food.

– The Boomers sought security and love.

– The Gen Xers sought influence and esteem.

– Now, because they have food, security, love, influence, confidence and esteem – the Millennials have the opportunity to focus on deeper connection, meaning, and self-actualization.

So, does this mean Millennials are entitled or evolved?

I say we celebrate evolving from foraging for food and water to foraging to quench our passion. Let’s celebrate the courage and tenacity of previous generations and encourage up and coming generations to take advantage of feeling safe and loved, confident and capable.

To quote Mark Snow, “…[Millennials] don’t need to be figured out. They need to be given the keys.”

I encourage you to read his full article on LinkedIn: Millennials: I’m p sure they’re ready for the big stage, TBH. But are we?

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Emily Bass inspires great leadership by seeing the potential in others and helping them move forward among the challenges of the work place and in learning environments. She is currently fulfilling her passion to make the dreams of others come true though her Adventure Leadership Summit, Assessment-based Executive Coaching and Essential Skills Workshops.

Mt. Washington Valley Economic Council presents “Essential Skills Workshop” a Management Boot Camp Series

How are you connected to your organization’s mission?

Connecting to the mission of one’s work adds value and purpose to the work.

Consider the following questions:

How clear are you about your organization’s mission?
How do you explain to others what you do?
How do you explain why you do what you do?
How does your role at work directly connect you with the organization’s purpose?
How does your role at work connect to your personal goals and values?

In my work with one nonprofit, the board was made up of “old timers” and “new comers”. There was lots of new energy and ideas in the air. The new comers were taking things in a new and fresh direction to bring in new and exciting things to draw in new and enthusiastic members. The old timers were wondering how this fit with their purpose. The new comers saw the potential to bring in more money with this newness. This sounded good to the old timers so they moved forward.

What happened was mission drift. It became hard for the board to agree where to focus and spend and grow because they lost the sense of who they were and why they existed in the first place. It became challenging for leadership to focus on precision and for the staff to operate when the mission was no longer clear. The messaging to the public became fuzzy and the purpose of, and connection to, the organization was drifting for all.

The next board meeting required a full agenda on the questions “Why do we exist?” and “Who do we intend to serve?”

It is invigorating to revisit the mission of one’s organization and clarify the connection for governing members, leadership and staff as well as for one’s self. Clarifying and articulating the mission is also a powerful tool for on-boarding new team members and champions.

How is the work of your board, leadership and staff different when your organization’s mission is clear and each can articulate their own connection to it?

I offer a program on mission connection and enjoy my work with boards, staff and individuals to strengthen connections in their lives.

Request a complimentary Connection Strengthening Session today.

Note: A wonderful read discussing mission connection is the book, Focus on Sustainability by Dennis McMillian of the Foraker Group.

 

 

 

Balancing caregiving with the rest of one’s life: Caregiver by default syndrome

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It’s common in today’s society to suddenly find one’s self in the role of caregiver to a friend or family member. Caregiving is emotionally charged on top of being another full-time job with a host of responsibilities.

I just finished setting up a Caring Bridge account for yet another friend beginning their journey with cancer. It causes a heaviness that I bring with me to work and other parts of my day. How can I go on with my life lightly as my friend is fighting to keep hers?

Many of us have experience with loss and grief but that doesn’t make it any easier. I have been volunteering with hospice for decades, yet I still go through the inevitable cycle of grief that comes with the territory.

Hospice encourages supporting caregivers with respite; any kind of respite you can offer: time away for a walk, an ear to listen without offering solutions; a precooked meal; or any simple gesture of support.

I believe the best thing a caregiver can do is take care of one’s self first.  I know it sounds counterintuitive but it is similar to what they tell you on the airplane about the oxygen mask… put it on yourself before putting it on your baby because you can’t help your baby if you can’t breath.

Some examples of taking care of yourself in the caregiver role include accepting help every time it is offered, allowing yourself to take breaks, taking the time to do something you enjoy, getting enough sleep and having a confidant.

Yet, how are we to handle that heavy ache at work? How can we stop the crusade we find ourselves on to take on the medical aspects as well as handle the other challenges of life such as if there are young children and financial issues and animals and…and…and…

One client shared, “I feel very purposeful caring for my mom yet the one thing I crave is time to sit alone and think about how things are unfolding.” While another client shared,  “I am so busy between work and caregiving that when I do have a free moment all I want to do is go wander aimlessly around the mall and just look at and touch everything but I feel so guilty wasting precious time.” These things may seem simple but they are not; they are important survival tactics and in the end will make each moment more valuable.

Balancing the demands of one’s career with the demands of the other aspects of one’s life fills the hours of the day easily. Adding the role of caregiver means needing help. Therefore, finding balance among the important roles in your life is critical and the best way to take care of you.

 How are you taking care of yourself so work and life are balanced?

Coaching is a great way to take care of one’s self and many coaches offer a free introductory session.

Request a complimentary Work/Life Balance session today!